A year ago, I was asked by my best friend, Maura Rose (well, Smith), to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.
She’d just gotten engaged to the guy we all knew she’d be with for the rest of her life. And I got the call early in the morning.
I remember exactly where I was at the time, in Orlando gearing up for my last semester of grad school in New York.
She walked me through the whole romantic engagement on the beach, I listened intently, secretly freaking out…thinking, “Wait…are we at the age now where we get married? We JUST got out of college.”
And then she asked me to be a bridesmaid.
…If you know me, you know I’m not a wedding person.
But I would do just about anything for Maura Rose, and honestly, somehow I knew this day would come (Maura was always the first to go).
After a year of planning, dress buying, and a move across the country…I was finally reunited with my best friend for the day of her dreams. She looked beautiful, the celebration as a whole was amazing, and I’m so glad I got to be a part of it all.
Now that I’ve had a week to reflect on it all, here are 5 things I learned my first time as a bridesmaid:
1. Good friends are ALWAYS worth it.
Y’all. I have the best friends on the planet. Some of these faces I haven’t seen in years. And some of these faces I won’t see anytime soon (living next to Russia and all). But I am incredibly glad to know the ladies and gents I spent the wedding weekend with.
I had a chance to talk to the groom a few days before the wedding. He told me something special—that he was extremely grateful for the friends he and Maura had. They’d been invaluable to them throughout the whole planning process, he said. And at that moment, I realized that if I ever underwent a life-changing event, I’d want this same bunch to help me through.
Plus, we know how to have fun.
2. True love does exist.
I’ve known Rickey for as long as I’ve known Maura, because, well, they’ve been together forever. The two of them make me a believer, honestly…almost as much as John Legend’s latest album.
But what I’ve admired about them the most is that they’ve kept God’s love first in their marriage…and have let that be their guide.
3. We are actually at that age where we get married and have children.
Well, you guys are. I’m still living—plenty of time to figure all that out. But if I ever had one, she most definitely should look like the cutie below (who I was told looks like she could be mine anyway).
4. Pack an extra pair of shoes.
If you’re practical, pack flats. If you’re me…pack a pair of higher heels that match your bouquet.
5. I’m never having a wedding.
That’s not to say I won’t get married, but don’t anybody expect an invitation to hear me say those vows. But DO expect private ceremony photos of me somewhere in a fabulous dress and heels. That’s where my time and money has always gone anyway.
Congrats to Mr. and Mrs. Smith (2!)
I love you both.